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Love Beyond Love
By: BG Stroup

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What is love? Read 10,000 books on the subject and you will be no closer to knowing what it is than when you first begun. There are so many different kinds of love, and nuances hidden inside of each.
Let's confine ourselves to romantic love, which as complicated as it is, is still the only one to which we have a hope of bringing even a glimmer of understanding. Within that love, let us observe one phenomenon, or factor.

Not attempting to analyze the impossible, I am confining myself only to that which makes some kind of logical sense, and for which I have, by observing several cases, empirical proof (of a sort) of a certain factor. It is an unusual kind of romantic love. Since I can name it anything I want, I'm simply going to call it a 'klick'.

I define 'klick' as - A region beyond romantic love, in which training, beliefs, morals, religion, or any other restraining factors will be sacrificed-- It includes --obsession--preoccupation with his/her partner-- sexual excitement with a freedom and ecstasy not known before--Personality absorption to some degree into that of the partner--A feeling of being intensely grateful, for having that particular partner--A feeling of thinking that since his/her partner is so wonderful, that every person of the opposite sex in the entire world must desire their mate, leading to extreme jealousy-- If caught in infidelity, the partner is never blamed, since he/she cannot help being so wonderful and desired, another person is always at blame--Worship, as an aberration, might be present to some degree, though that would be only in very extreme cases.

Now when a person finds that their partner is in the personage of a Klick for them, it is like a kick in the gut. He/she becomes so much in love that they are actually in a discomfort of the body, as well as of the mind.

The klick does not happen at first sight as a general rule, It can of course, but the timetable is unpredictable, and may be counted in weeks or even months. However, I do not believe that it can be counted in years.

It is love to the point of obsession. Unfortunately, that does not mean that he/she which has found their klick in the person of their partner, is going to be returned a recipient love of the same magnitude. In fact, they usually do not, thereby creating a rather miserable situation for the both of them and immeasurably more so in the person that has found their klick.

Even worse, since the relationship is sure to fail at some point, the unlucky one is now aware that there is such an overpowering love as a klick, and will not be satisfied entirely with anything less. Though certainly they may love again, or even marry again, still the eternal memory of the klick, will always be there, always leaving their partner, if the partner is a sensitive person, with an uneasy feeling that something is slightly wrong. Something they can't quite put their finger on, but which they can sense. Though no verbal or demonstrable reason has been noted.

When two people form a relationship, and perhaps are fortunate enough to fall in love, it may mean that neither of them has found a klick. Long and happy lives have been the result of the partnership of two people, neither of them which have found their klick, and, blissfully unaware that there is such a thing, carry on, living a happy life, Loving each other, till the end comes for one. Actually, this would seem to be a very desired relationship, and one that when it ends, as all things must, leaves a 'good taste in the mouth,' and many precious memories. They have loved, and they have been happy.

Perhaps after a partner dies, after a long and loving relationship, and the survivor forms another relationship. Wham! It is his/her 'Klick, but as nearly always happens, it is not reciprocated. Devastation follows, and the knowledge that there is such a thing as a Klick is almost as bad, marring future relationships to a marked degree. It would be much better to be totally unaware.

There are many variations on the theme, but of course the ideal is when both partners have found their klick. It seldom happens, but I am confident that it does.

Certainly a situation that is far from ideal is when the recipient of a klick is married to another person, thus forming a triangle. However, in this triangle, only one klick is present. Sadly, the person, who has found their klick, will lose all restraint. This is certainly a bad combination in which fortune smiles if only one heart is broken. There are various combinations here, but the ending will not be happy in any case.

There is another situation in which one partner is married, but forms a klick with someone else, who reciprocates the klick in it's entirety. This may or may not have a more or less happy ending. At least it has a chance, which it would not have, if only one klick were present.
Of course, there are degrees of this kind of love. However I am only referring to the full blown klick, except that it may not carry the added aberration of worship. It would be extremely sophomoric of me to say that, in all cases of love, there are not some elements of the klick. We are only discussing though, the effects of the klick, in its entirety, and it's effect on human relationships.

The conclusion is that in any relationship, even when true love is present in both partners, if only one has found their klick, the possibility for true happiness is practically non-existent.

I am convinced that in the beginning before the fall of man and nature and by the grace of the Most High God, all people had the perfect combination of factors that made love just right for each couple.

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